Radical Acceptance was created by Dr. Marsha Linehan. A complete genius. I love her.
Basically, what this means is that you accept EVERYTHING that is not in your control.
Example, your sister is being awful to you, she yelled at you and downloaded a bunch of virus filled porn on your computer. You're mad. SHE SHOULD NOT HAVE DONE THAT! You complain, you get all upset. But, how is that going to help anything?
If going up to your sister and punching her in the throat going to solve anything? Hell no. Is complaining going to fix your computer? No.
So, you have two choices. Solve the problem, or be miserable.
Solving the problem is pretty easy. You call a friend that's good with computers, explain your situation and have them come help. Then, you confront your sister, without being angry. Then you move on.
Or, you could yell and scream, swear and punch her. She shouldn't have done it!
Lemme tell you a secret. There's no such thing as 'should' and 'shouldn't'. Not in the past. You can't dictate what she SHOULD have done. The past is the past. Get the hell over it.
I've wasted so much time trying to tell everyone how stupid they are. Hell, i still enjoy it. But i'm not going to let it stress me. I'm not stressed about it at all. You're gonna talk to me and tell me your problems are worse than mine. And i accept that. I'm ok with it. Have at it. And i'm going to sit here and laugh at you because you're working yourself into a tizzy about something you can't control.
So, if anyone wants to know what you can do to stop freaking out all the time, lemme know. I find that telling other people about what i've learned helps me better understand it.
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